the truth about weight loss - part 1
Every January, the world tells you it’s time to “get back on track.”
Lose weight. Eat cleaner. Try harder. Be more disciplined.
But here’s the truth most people don’t hear:
Weight loss is hard, and it’s not jsut because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or lacking willpower.
It’s hard because it involves physiology, habits, hormones, emotions, identity, and lifestyle patterns that have been shaping your body for years… sometimes decades.
And i beating yourself up hasn’t helped yet, it won’t suddenly start working now.
Let’s talk about the real truth behind weight loss so you can finally pursue it in a healthy, shame free way.
1. Motivation Doesn’t Come First! It Comes Last.
Most people think:
“I’ll start once I feel motivated.”
But motivation isn’t a spark, it’s a result.
Intrinsic motivation grows from:
Early wins
Feeling more energetic
Seeing yourself follow through
Feeling proud of small steps
But when you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or discouraged, motivation is naturally low.
That doesn’t make you broken, it makes you human.
If you struggle with motivation, what you actually need is:
✨ structure
✨ support
✨ accountability
✨ a plan that fits your real life
These are the “scaffolds” that hold you up until your internal motivation grows stronger.
No one builds consistency alone.
2. Discipline Isn’t a Personality Trait. It’s a System
You don’t become disciplined by trying harder.
You become disciplined by creating an environment where the easier choice is the better choice.
Examples:
Prepped protein in the fridge
Workouts built into your calendar
A coach checking in
A “default lunch” you don’t overthink
Walking meetings vs. trying to squeeze steps in at night
If discipline hasn’t worked for you, it’s because the system was broken, not you.
3. Weight Loss Takes Longer Than We Want
The timeline depends on many factors:
How much weight you want to lose
How long habits have been in place
Stress levels and cortisol
Sleep quality
Hormone balance
Muscle mass
Metabolism
Movement patterns
Age and life stage (peri-menopause with young kids = a different universe)
None of these are moral failures.
They’re simply reality.
We’ve been conditioned to believe weight loss should be fast and linear.
It isn’t. The scale can move up and down and even stall out along the way.
Healthy weight loss is slow, steady, and built on habits. The quick fixes are just that. They work quickly but often make it harder to keep the weight off long term.
4. Guilt and Shame Don’t Create Change. They Create Avoidance.
When weight loss becomes tied to shame:
You avoid the scale
You avoid mirrors
You avoid the gym
You avoid starting over
You avoid talking with your coach or hiring structure and support
You avoid anything that reminds you of past failures
Shame makes you hide.
Support helps you grow.
The truth?
You can’t hate yourself into a healthier version of yourself.
You can support yourself there.
5. You Are Not Behind. You Just Haven’t Had the Right Plan Yet
Most women think: “I should be able to do this on my own.”
But why?
Doctors, athletes, CEOs, musicians, they all have coaches.
Because structure, accountability, and support are what turn intentions into action.
If you haven’t made progress yet, it’s not because you’re weak.
It’s because you didn’t have the right tools, support, or approach.
What’s Coming in Part 2
In Part 2, we’ll talk about:
What healthy weight loss looks like
How to build habits that don’t fall apart in 2 weeks
The difference between fat loss and weight loss
Why eating more can actually help you lose
Sustainable calorie deficits
How strength training speeds results
How to do this without obsession, restriction, or burnout
And how to transition from external support → intrinsic motivation
You deserve a healthy, compassionate, knowledgable approach, not another crash and burn cycle.
If you're ready to stop starting over, you don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Want support, a plan that fits your life, and someone to walk with you?
Check out my coaching options or book a free call.
